Many times we allow what we did yesterday to define who we are today, which is counter-productive; makes you feel stagnate, and can lead to depression. I did this for years and have spent the last 12 months correcting this bad habit. I have read many articles, books, viewed videos and documentaries on how to go about recreating myself. As you continue reading I will reveal the three most important free techniques you can implement today.
Everything you experience changes who you are in some way. The change may be big or small, but either way you will have something new to add to your life perspective. Life’s experiences offer you a new position from which to view life.
Dragging Around Yesterday Is Too Heavy For Today
Yesterday’s mistakes happened in the past and are no longer active, they belong to yesterday. Dragging around all your yesterday’s can be quite heavy. Imagine being 5 years old and every morning you pick up five grocery bags. You drape two of them on each arm and one around your neck. You wear them around all day. You eat, go to school, play, do homework, take baths, and don’t even them off at night to sleep. Do you think your body would grow properly? Would your brain be active at school during class? The answer is no. Dragging around 5 bags all day would weigh you down, make you feel exhausted, zap any energy for playing or creating new friendships, and by the time you were six years old you would show signs of depression.
If you are reading this you are most likely older than six. Your bags are probably a lot larger than grocery bags. Your bags are 10 gallon garbage bags filled with yesterday’s regrets, guilt, mistakes, disappointments, and fears. You can’t drape them around your neck or arms. You have to pick them up one at a time and move them as you go. You have to run back to pick them up every few steps. You can’t go far because your bags are too heavy, you are exhausted, and have no desire to engage in new forms of recreation or relationships. You may keep the sadness and depression pushed to the background of your subconscious mind with some addiction or vice, which causes you to have another bag of crap to carry around, filled with secrets and lies.
Today Is A Blank Slate
Today is a blank slate only if you allow it to be. Many people don’t fully understand why tomorrow is called a new day. To better understand what I am saying let’s look at the definition of new.
not existing before; made, introduced, or discovered recently or now for the first time.
Now that we have defined new let us look at the word day.
a period of twenty-four hours as a unit of time, reckoned from one midnight to the next, corresponding to a rotation of the earth on its axis.
If we analyze these two words we see that a new day is a unit of time that did not exist before. It is an experience that is made, introduced, or discovered recently or now for the first time, which by its definition means it doesn’t have anything to do with yesterday.
Ready to let go of yesterday and start living for today?
Okay here are three simple free steps:
Step 1: Forgive Yourself
It is easier to forgive others than it is to forgive yourself. If you plan on getting rid of the old you, you must become a master at this. My good friend, Kathleen, and I were talking about how to forgive oneself. She said,
“Honestly, you can’t do anything about the past unless you have a time machine. It’s over, it’s a done, leave it there”.
Forgive yourself for whatever you don’t feel good about, whether it was not being more disciplined, courageous, faithful, sober, or kind. By forgiving yourself you disconnect from that never-ending buzz in the back of your mind that causes self-doubt and poor self-image.
Look in the mirror and say I forgive myself for _____________ (fill in the blanks). This quiets down the negative internal dialogue allowing you to drop those heavy garbage bags freeing you up for step 2.
Step 2: Acknowledge That Today You Can Be the New You
Remember today is a new unit of time and you have a new position from which to view life. Acknowledge that you are not the old you from yesterday. Express this acknowledgement in whatever manner you feel comfortable, write it, say it, or sing it. You must do this step, because the conscious mind has the power to control the subconscious mind. The subconscious mind is what you need to reprogram if you are going to create a new you. It absorbs information and forms your reality. Feed it what you want it to produce. Right now you need it to know that today is A NEW DAY and YOU ARE A NEW YOU.
Step 3: Shift Your Focus to Today
Focus on what is happening right now, do not fixate on the things that happened in the past. Only allow your mind to focus on what you are going to do today and with your future.
Kathleen explained that shifting your focus from yesterday to today gives you an opportunity, the only opportunity, to create something new for yourself.
By practicing the above exercises daily you will become more and more of what you want to be with each passing moment.
Do Not Live In The Past. Living in the past, regurgitating yesterdays’ old spoiled milk, clouds the mind and reinforces your old self-image. Each time you find yourself thinking about yesterday repeat the three steps. Acknowledge, forgive, and immediately shift your focus to today and the new you.
You have learned from the actions of your past. Today you do things differently, it’s a new day, a new you.